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Bi Curious Dating: Explore at Your Own Pace
Chat first, meet when you're ready and keep it as private as you like.
Curious Is Reason Enough
Bi curious dating is for anyone who wants to find out what it's like with someone of the same sex, or with a couple, before they've decided what to call it. My Bisexual Secret is a discreet bi curious dating site where you set the pace, chat before you meet and choose what happens next.
Maybe you've wondered for years and never acted on it. Maybe it happened once and you've thought about it ever since. You don't have to call yourself bisexual to be here, and nobody will ask you to. Some people say straight curious, some say gay curious. The word matters far less than what you'd like to try.
Tags That Fit Where You Are Today
Sign up as a man, a woman or a couple, then choose who you'd like to meet. You can pick more than one. Your profile interests say the rest. Bicurious and Straight Curious are there for exactly this stage, so choose whichever sounds more like you. Add First Time Encounter if you've never done it, or Chat Only if you'd rather just talk for now, and update them as you find out what you like.
Still finding the words? Our guide to what bi curious means is a gentle place to start, and if one question keeps nagging at you, read Am I bisexual?
Men make up nearly nine in ten members, and most of the rest are couples (more than 700) and women (more than 500). It's a grown-up crowd, with almost half of members aged 35 to 54.
Chat Until You're Ready
There's no rush and no script. Start with a private message, keep it light and see how it feels. A chat can run for a day or a month before anyone suggests a drink, and either is fine. Without VIP there's a daily limit on the messages you send, and you can read and answer anything a VIP member sends you. VIP lifts the limit. See how bisexual chat works on the site.
Your Curiosity Stays Private
You're known by a username, and your real name and email address are never shown. Members see the town or city nearest to you and nothing closer. If someone oversteps, block them on the spot and report them without leaving the site. Take the free ID check and a blue tick shows people you're genuine, and if you go VIP, the site's name won't appear on your bank statement.
What a First Bi Curious Meet Is Really Like
- Butterflies
- Expect them, on both sides. Admitting you're new breaks the ice better than any chat-up line.
- A drink first
- Meet somewhere public and keep the first one short. You can always plan a second.
- Honest talk
- Say what you'd like to try and what you'd rather not. Anyone worth meeting will be glad you did.
- Your call
- You can change your mind at any point, and so can they.
- Afterwards
- Feeling thrilled, unsure or a bit of both is completely normal. Give it a day, then decide if you'd like to see them again.
Want a fuller plan? Our guide to your first bi experience walks you through it.
Curious While You're With Someone
If you have a partner and the curiosity won't go away, there are four honest ways forward: taking time with the feeling on your own, talking to your partner, exploring together as a couple, or agreeing an open arrangement. Our guide to being bi curious with a partner sets out each option plainly and leaves the choice with you.
Still Curious?
Can I join if I'm just curious?
Yes. Bi curious, straight curious, gay curious or simply not sure yet, you're welcome, and nobody asks you to explain yourself.
I'm a bi curious guy. Is this site for me?
Yes. Most members are men, and the bi curious are exactly who the site is for. Add Bicurious to your interests and choose who you'd like to meet: men, women, couples or a mix.
Can I meet bi curious women near me?
Women are a smaller group here than men, at more than 500, with more than 700 couples as well. Your daily matches take distance into account, and VIP lets you search by city and by distance.
Can I just chat and not meet?
Of course. Add Chat Only to your interests and people will know you'd rather talk for now. Nothing happens offline unless you both want it to.
Is there a bi curious dating app?
My Bisexual Secret runs in your phone's browser, and you can add it to your home screen so it opens like an app. The steps are on our bisexual dating app page.
Find Out What You Like
Make a profile in a few minutes, pick Bicurious or Straight Curious and say hello when it feels right.
Start Exploring