Bisexual Dating NZ: Discreet Meets for Bi Curious Kiwis
Auckland leads the way, and the crowd skews younger.
Bi Dating, Kiwi Style
My Bisexual Secret has more than 300 members in New Zealand. Most are men, with more than 20 women, a higher share of women than in any other country we cover, and more than ten couples. Auckland has the biggest group, ahead of Christchurch and Wellington.
Travelling between cities? Matches take distance into account and VIP adds a city search, handy when you're in Auckland one weekend and Christchurch the next. Crossing the Tasman? Our page on bisexual dating in Australia covers the more than 900 members over there, and the places page has our city guides.
Take It Slow or Jump Straight In
Your profile tags set the tone before anyone writes. Chat Only says you'd like to talk first. Bicurious and First Time Encounter say you're new to this, which is exactly what those tags are for. Discreet Meets and Experienced meets say you know what you want.
Not ready to meet? Flirt by private message, or with VIP, join the members-only chat rooms or start a group chat for up to 50. See how bisexual chat works.
A Younger Crowd Than Most
New Zealand skews younger than most of the site: three in ten members are under 35 and 25 to 34 is the biggest age group.
Members in New Zealand by age.
A Quick Look Before You Leap
| Good to know | The detail |
|---|---|
| Equal marriage | Since 19 August 2013, for any two people |
| PrEP | Any doctor can prescribe it. If you're eligible, funded PrEP should cost NZ$5 for three months, plus the GP visit. |
| Testing | Sexual health clinics, GPs and Sexual Wellbeing Aotearoa (once Family Planning). Most sexual health clinics charge nothing, though some ask a fee. |
| HIV self-tests | Posted by Burnett Foundation Aotearoa, with results in 20 minutes |
| Someone to talk to | OutLine Aotearoa, by phone or online chat |
OutLine's support line is answered by trained volunteers from Aotearoa's rainbow communities, for people of every age, their friends and whānau, and anyone who's questioning. If no volunteer can pick up, you can leave a voicemail and one will call you back. In Auckland, RainbowYOUTH runs a drop-in centre, peer support and social groups for young queer and gender diverse people.
Private, Even in a Small Town
When it feels like everyone knows everyone, privacy matters more. Other members see a username and a town, and never your name, email or street. You can block anyone in an instant, and the free ID check gives you a blue tick that shows you're genuine. VIP is billed discreetly, without the site's name on your bank statement. Before you meet, run through our safety checklist.
All Sorted Before You Start
Is there a bisexual dating site in New Zealand?
Yes, and more than 300 members in New Zealand have joined it. The site works in your phone's browser, so you can flirt from the sofa or the bach.
Where in New Zealand are most members?
Auckland has the biggest group, with more than 50 members, followed by Christchurch and Wellington.
Are there bi women in New Zealand on the site?
Yes. More than 20 women in New Zealand have joined, and no other country on the site has a higher share of women.
Can I meet someone in Australia too?
Yes. Choose who you'd like to meet, and when you're over the Tasman, the VIP city search shows who's around. Australia has more than 900 members.
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