Bisexual Chat: Flirt in Private Before You Meet
Start with a message and meet only when it feels right.
Flirt First, Decide Later
Bisexual chat on My Bisexual Secret happens in private messages, one member at a time, so you can flirt, ask questions and get a feel for someone before anybody mentions meeting. With VIP you can also join members-only chat rooms and set up private group chats of up to 50 people.
Most members live in the UK, the USA and Canada, with more in South Africa, Australia and New Zealand. Bi curious chat is just as welcome as the experienced kind, and “I've never done this before” is a perfectly good way to open.
Chat Your Way
| Chat | Good for | Who can use it |
|---|---|---|
| Private messages | Flirting one to one | Every member, up to a daily limit; no limit with VIP |
| Replies to VIP members | Writing back to someone who messaged first | Every member |
| Chat rooms | Members-only group conversation | VIP members |
| Private group chats | Up to 50 people in one place, handy for plans | Started by VIP members; anyone in one can chat, VIP or not |
So if a VIP member writes to you first, you can read it and answer. Want to chat with bi men? The site is made for bi and bi curious men, women and couples, and nearly nine in ten members are men, with more than 700 couples and more than 500 women too.
Openers That Start Something
A good first message is short, friendly and about them. Pick up on something in their profile, ask one question and leave room for an answer. Three to borrow:
- “Your profile says First Time Encounter. Mine too. Shall we be nervous together?”
- “I was going to play it cool, then I saw your photos. How's your evening going?”
- “Discreet, fun and in no hurry. If that sounds like you too, tell me one thing nobody else on here knows.”
Skip the copy-and-paste lines, the first message that jumps straight to the bedroom and the explicit photo nobody asked for. Explicit images are blurred behind a warning anyway. And if someone's tags say Chat Only, enjoy the chat.
Flirt Safely, Stay Discreet
- You chat under a username, so your real name and email stay hidden.
- If someone pushes to move the chat to WhatsApp or another app, the site spots it and warns you. Stay on the site until you've met and feel sure.
- Keep your number, surname and workplace to yourself until you trust someone.
- Rate a chat with one click, block anyone instantly and report anything odd from inside the site.
- Behaviour monitoring looks out for the unusual activity that scammers and bots leave behind, and human support answers by chat and messaging around the clock.
There's more on how we keep members safe.
Your Chats, One Tap Away
You don't need a separate bisexual chat app. Open My Bisexual Secret in your phone's browser, or pin it to your home screen, where it works like an app and keeps your messages close at hand. Our bisexual dating app page has the steps for iPhone and Android.
Before You Hit Send
Do I need VIP to chat?
Not to get started. Every member can send a limited number of messages a day and can read and reply to messages from VIP members. VIP adds unlimited messaging, the chat rooms and private group chats, and our pricing page sets out the plans.
Is there a bi curious chat room?
The chat rooms are members-only and come with VIP, on a site built around bi and bi curious dating. Prefer a smaller crowd? A VIP member can start a private group chat for up to 50 people.
What if someone asks me to move to WhatsApp?
You'll see a warning, because moving a chat off the site is a common scam tactic. You don't have to agree. Carry on talking on the site, where you can block and report anyone who won't take no for an answer.
Will anyone know who I'm chatting with?
Private messages are one to one, and you chat under a username that never shows your real name or email address. The site is hosted on PCI-compliant infrastructure with full SSL encryption.
Say Hello, Discreetly
Make a profile, add a photo and send your first message in a few minutes.
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