Safety and privacy

Safe, Discreet Bisexual Dating: Your Secret, Protected

Checked profiles, private details and human support around the clock.

Flirt Boldly, Stay Private

My Bisexual Secret keeps you private and helps you check who you're meeting. You go by a username, members see only your nearest town or city, and a free ID check earns you a blue tick. Moderators screen uploads, blocking is instant, and human support answers 24/7 by chat and messaging.

Know Who You're Flirting With

Free ID check. Verify with government ID for a blue tick. Only the ID check earns it, and it's optional, so not every member has one.
Live video check. A moderator checks live that you match your photos, with no documents involved.
Age assurance. Software estimates every member's age, adding checks where local law demands them, to keep the site adults only.

Your Details, Your Rules

A username, not your name. Your real name and email never show, so it's hard for anyone to trace you to your social media.
A town, not a street. Members see your nearest town or city, while your address and live location stay hidden.
Instant blocking. Blocked members can't contact you or see you.
Reporting built in. Flag a member or a post from inside the site.
A quiet bank statement. Pay for VIP and the site's name stays off it.

Start Your Secret

A Community That Keeps Itself Honest

Every member carries a reputation score built from behaviour and feedback, so you can size someone up before replying. One click rates a chat up or down, so bad manners get noticed early. And if someone pushes to swap to WhatsApp, you'll get an alert: rushing you off the site is a classic scam.

Moderators Keeping Watch

AI watches for suspicious activity to catch scammers and bots early. Moderators, human and AI, check photos and text as they're uploaded, and possibly explicit images arrive blurred behind a warning, so looking is your call. Anything of yours posted without permission? Ask, and the takedown request is handled fast.

Real People on Hand, Day and Night

Human support answers round the clock by chat and messaging, and safety tips and reminders are built into the site. Hosting is PCI-compliant with full SSL encryption, to keep your details, messages and payments safe. Our involvement with the Online Dating and Discovery Association keeps us in step with good practice.

Meet Up With Confidence

Chat on the site first. Swap numbers once you know them.
Check for the blue tick. No ID check? Ask yourself why.
Ask for a quick video call once you have swapped numbers. It shows the face matches the photos.
Meet in public. A busy bar or café, not a home.
Tell someone you trust where you'll be and when.
Sort your own transport, so you can leave any time.
Never send money, however good the story.
Leave if it feels wrong. You can block and report later.

Healthy Fun Is the Best Kind

Use condoms and test regularly while you're meeting new people. PrEP, a medicine that helps prevent HIV, is worth asking a sexual health clinic about. In the UK it comes through sexual health clinics; in Australia any GP can write a script for it; in New Zealand any doctor can prescribe it.

Spot a Scammer a Mile Off

Requests for money, gift cards or crypto, whatever the story.
A rush to move you onto WhatsApp or text.
Model-perfect photos, an empty profile or big feelings on day one.
Links asking you to log in or pay somewhere else.
Threats to share photos or tell a partner unless you pay. Don't pay; keep the messages and report it to us and the police.

Support Lines Close to Home

Rather talk to someone outside the site? Try these:

UK: Switchboard, the LGBTQIA+ support line, by phone, chat or email.
USA: The LGBT National Help Center, whose lines include coming out support and a senior hotline for over-50s.
Canada: Interligne, confidential help in English or French on questions of sexual and gender diversity.
Australia: QLife, on 1800 184 527 or webchat, for anonymous peer support and referral.
New Zealand: OutLine Aotearoa, a confidential rainbow support line, by phone or online chat.
South Africa: Triangle Project in Cape Town, a non-profit offering LGBTQI+ counselling, information and referrals.

In danger? Call your local emergency number first.

Date With Peace of Mind

Is My Bisexual Secret safe?

It's built to be: usernames, town-only locations, a free ID check with a blue tick and moderators screening uploads. Add the meeting tips above and your own good sense.

How do I know someone is real?

Look for the blue tick, which only an ID check gives, chat on the site until you're sure, and have a short video call before you meet.

What happens when I block someone?

From that moment they can't message you or see you. Report them too if they broke the rules.

Someone asked me for money. What should I do?

Don't send it. Stop replying, then report and block them. Anyone genuinely interested in you won't ask.

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