For bi and bi curious men
My Bisexual Secret vs Grindr: Which Suits Bi Men?
One shows you who is close by, the other is built for discreet bi meets.
Do bi men use Grindr? Grindr welcomes them: its listing speaks to people who are gay, bi, trans, queer or just curious, and its grid shows who is close by right now. My Bisexual Secret is made for bi and bi curious men who want to meet men, women or couples discreetly, all from one profile.
Grindr and Us, Line by Line
| The point | My Bisexual Secret | Grindr |
|---|---|---|
| Who it is for | Bi and bi curious men, women and couples, 18+ | Gay, bi, trans and queer people, and the curious, 18+ |
| How it sells itself | A discreet site for bi fun | Gay dating and chat for the LGBTQ community |
| Couples | One shared Couple profile | No couple profile listed |
| Location | Nearest town or city, nothing closer | A grid of people around you |
| Where it runs | Any phone browser, no download | iPhone and Android apps; web for subscribers |
| Checks | Free ID check and live video check | One-time age check for UK users |
| Membership | Classic on every account; VIP and VIP Plus extras (see prices) | Ads in the basic app; XTRA and Unlimited cost extra |
Pick by What You Want Tonight
- Who is around you right now: Grindr’s location grid is made for that.
- Men and women, not one or the other: on My Bisexual Secret you can tick men, women and couples at once.
- Privacy you control: a username, your town but never your street, and VIP billing that leaves our name off your statement.
- Private albums you can share and unshare, several photos at once: that is a Grindr feature.
- A first time, taken slowly: tags such as First Time Encounter and Straight Curious set the pace, and our first bi experience guide helps.
- Men only, kept discreet: our men seeking men page shows how men meet men here.
Men, Women and Couples on One Profile
Being bi can mean fancying a man one week and a woman or a couple the next. Here you tick every kind of person you would like to meet, and your daily matches take those choices into account. Nearly nine in ten members are men, alongside more than 700 couples and more than 500 women.
Tags such as Bud Friend, Discreet Meets and Experienced meets say the rest. More on bisexual men on the site.
Your Town Shows, Never Your Street
Grindr is built around a location grid that shows people near you. My Bisexual Secret never shows anything closer than your nearest town or city, so your profile never gives away your street. Daily matches still weigh up distance, and VIP adds city and distance filters for when you want someone close. Our tips on bi dating near you cover the rest.
Checks That Keep It Real
Members earn a blue tick through a free ID check, while a moderator’s live video check confirms a face fits the profile pictures, no paperwork involved. Photos are screened on upload, explicit images sit behind a warning, and blocking is instant. Grindr asks everyone in the UK to pass a one-time age check, and offers an optional Taken on Grindr stamp for photos shot in its own camera.
Support is on hand around the clock by chat and messaging. See how members stay safe.
When Grindr Might Suit You Better
- You want to see who is near you right now, on a location grid.
- You want Incognito mode and the option to unsend messages and photos, both part of Grindr Unlimited.
- You want an app on the App Store and Google Play, with new versions most weeks.
- You like a name that has been around since 2009.
Want women and couples in the mix, or a profile that keeps your location vague? That is what My Bisexual Secret is for.
Straight Answers for Bi Men
Do bi men use Grindr?
Grindr is open to them. Its App Store listing names people who are gay, bi, trans, queer or even just curious, so bi men can join. If you want to meet women and couples as well as men, My Bisexual Secret lets you choose all three from one profile.
Is there a Grindr for bisexuals?
My Bisexual Secret is built for that: a dating site for bi and bi curious men, women and couples aged 18 and over, right in your phone’s browser.
Can couples use Grindr?
Grindr’s listing and website mention no couple profile. On My Bisexual Secret, couples share one profile and singles can choose to meet them.
Will people near me know I use My Bisexual Secret?
Your profile shows a username and your nearest town or city, never your street or real name, and with VIP your bank statement never shows the site’s name.
Men, Women or Couples: Your Call
Tell us who you want to meet, set your tags and start flirting discreetly.
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